Ladyrider
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Do you realize what a blessing you are to me? I hope you do. It means so much. I am not signing up with any lawyer till all the information is in. They did send a PI to the accident site, and bike to photo it today. Assuring me I am not obligated to use their services. PI called me to meet with him after seeing the bike. I talked with him about the accident, the memorial, etc. Do you know that grown stranger cried on me twice? What is up with that? He did not know me, I was not emotional, & he did not know Tom. That was bizarre. I did not buy the tears of concern. This man said he was a PI for acccidents for 25 years. And he is crying to me? I was mad anyway, since I told him to call me to meet him at the site while he photographed the road. I had some stuff to do at our road side memorial. He did not call me till he was done...and then, of course, he was not going to ask me to meet him then. Anyway, I am taking my niece to the airport tomorrow...then its "on my own"...2500 sq ft is going to feel like 5000 by myself, weekly, during the day without my man...but I will keep on for those boys... and yes, as far as my BIL, I just agreed with him and let it go when we spoke on Monay....Tom took excellant care of me alive and has provided for us in his passing. I was independent long time ago and I can do it again...
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I saw the red devil today. That was very, very hard. My niece, Tom's daughter and myself went to the building where the "fatality" vehhcles are kept. What a nice man who showed us the bike. The handles were both bent in, the speedometer had been pushed into the bike so it was barely visable. of course, no wind shield. The right side of the bike, the buggared up side, was where it laid down on the road. The left side of the bike had no damage. Attenea had broken off. He let us retrieve the few items on the bike, including the J & M intercom that Tom just paid $300 for and installed the week before he died. Amazingly, it was not damaged. I was surpirsed the guy let us have that. Getting his lunch pail from work was hard. I opened it up to see he had "cleaned" his bowl. Usually, he brings it home dirty for me to wash. Tucked inside was also my last "love" note I wrote him to find when he got into his lunch. I think I had written that a while back and he had just left it in there. Got the impression back I had made of Tom's hand from the orthodontist. Got the kids signed up for SS. When we got home, TJ drove up very upset. They had closed the road by the cemetary and they close the gates at 4pm. He wanted to bad to "talk" to his dad there. I told him to go back and park on the outside of the grounds and walk in. He did and came home after his talk feeling much better. Its nice that the cemetary is on TJ's way home from school, we pass there often. We drive by the accident site many times a week. I will go today and spruce up the white cross we placed there. I bought some nice plastic grape vine with grapes to wind around it. I will get a picture of the site. Maybe someone would like to see it? Sorry to be so long winded. If I am sharing too much, just say so.
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oh Biker family, hold me. I am so tired. so tired. I did pretty good two days in a row till my brother in law brought back Tom's daughter last night. Tom and John were like black and white, peace and war, etc. I have expressed to John my concerns about sueing over this accident and not letting the company at least offer a settlement first. My BIL is VERY controlling. His own two daughters, who live in the same city he does, did not bother to call, or come to either ceremony. He doe not have a good relationship with them. He started in on me last night about "sueing, taking care of the boys, and Tom's daughters in Texas (the grown married ones) etc" I lost it. I SCREAMED AT HIM, I HAVE LOST MY BEST FRIEND. He ran out the front door and shook his finger at me that he was not going to take that off of me. I apologized. He said I had to be strong and not cry in front of the boys. He made me feel like CRAP. I had told him earlier that I had not been crying much and was going to be talkig to a lawyer next week. He just kept on trying to tell me what I should do. he would not tell me goodbye, and had a yard talk with Tom's daughter while John's wife tried to explalin Johns behavior to me. They left a few minutes later. Oh Tom, Oh Tom, wrap your arms around me. I will be wise and do right by your boys. Please God, give me the peace and guidance I need. Oh Lord, I am empty.... Thanks for listening you all. I really was doing so well yesterday....this post is hard to follow, but I reread it and can't pull it together...
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It was a wet day, notice God's tears on the ground? I know my Lord was crying with me, as the rest of you were. Someday, I will see my Tom again, at the tree of life. Thank you all for helping me through each minute till I see this most amazing man I have ever met, again.
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It was a rough day. But the outpouring of support was beyond my imagination. Oh that Tom could glempse this. He shared with me many times his "lack of friends"...oh how wrong he was. His employer, Lodi Memorial, is arranging their own memorial for Tom. I am in awe. I will be there and embrace the memories they will share of my special guy. I may post quite often on this site. I am so empty. So lost. So without a compus, short of getting my kids into life and through school. Otherwise, nothing means anything to me. Except holding onto my faith in God that will carry me through to my eternity with the Lord. Sherry
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Thats my family. Thank you, boys. I need more hugs next time your passing through town.
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Tom would have been so impressed. I loved it, oh how it warmed my heart. Every hug from those riders felt like I was getting one from all of you. They give good hugs. People were dully impressed. Several people mentioned it was the best service they had been to and riders were great. oh Tom, oh Tom, the guys were there and your children were so proud of their dad. Love each and every one of you!
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I am touched to tears. Tom, oh, Tom I wish you were here to know all this love you did not know people had for you. Oh my darling, I cling to the day we meet at the tree of life. I pray God keeps us faithful to Him. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THAT POEM!
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the one resource the world will never run out of are idiots that do not know what they are talking about. May they never have to learn the hard way that their brains really made out of compressed cardboard.
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I am going to ask the people Tom worked with, maybe they still have the paper, or was this just an on line mouthing off? What could someone possibley say bad about a man who ran into a cow trailor and died? If you know and would like to PM me, please do. I am lost on this matter.
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What reactions? What are you reading something bad about Tom's accident? I am confused? Please direct me.
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Thank you all for our sweet, loving words. I will have my sons read this after our goodbyes to dear TOm are over. Favor please, can anyone locate the article in the Stockton Paper? I don't have that one and someone said it had more information. Guess it would have been in Tuesday's edition. Your cyber space hugs and prayers are coming through. My niece will arrive from Idaho tomorrow night. That will be good. Both my parents and Tom's parents are gone. Tom has 1 brother, 1 sister and thier S.O.'s and I have 2 brothers and 1 sister, and their SO's Our church family is treating us like royality. Enough food for the city of Galt to eat. Next week the reality sets in when everyone is gone.... Viewing is Friday from 11-1, then to the graveside for a small service. Memorial Saturday at 2pm Galt SDA Church.
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{Buddy, you're right. She is worth the expense. } Tom, that is so sweet. Thank you... Can't wait till were all set up for a long ride. Buddy is so right, I have to keep my eyes on the road.
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I will check that out. I have a Silverwing. BTW...they say Thomas Edison "thought out loud"...so your in good company...keep the audible information coming...
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Only choices I can come up with are 1. Towpac 2. Voyager 3. Danson Any feed back on those trike kits? Tom will be putting it together himself, unless we can find someone of the west coast. Sherry
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Thanks Allan! I will check those out. Your great. Just what I was looking for.
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Is there any site out there that compares the trike kits? I want to trike my SWing and so far we have 3 choices...instata trike...red dragon...danson... any comparisons out there?
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Which size wheels are those? I wanna ride it! YIPPEEE...no more droppa the bike! How much better does it get????
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YEA! That looks like my kina ride. BTW, why did you trike your scoot? I am tense from fear of dropping my bike. So, who cares what anti-trikers think, I am gonna get my Silverwing triked this spring. Then, there will be NO holding me back! Its better than giving up your scoot. Here I come, all kick back and relaxed!
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In memory of request...a photo with a name...
Ladyrider replied to Ladyrider's topic in In Memory Of
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In memory of request...a photo with a name...
Ladyrider replied to Ladyrider's topic in In Memory Of
Abdul, We are each unique and wonderfully made. Grief is a very personal thing. Yet (imho) this American culture does not have the family support many other cultures do. I like to see a face with a memorial. It means more to me. I am a people person, so there really aren't any strangers to me. Just someone along the road of life I have not had the joy of knowing. For each of us has great potential to pass out happiness and joy. To acknowledge someone's loss and grief is important (but maybe not if your a private person). Its helping someone with their burden. So, I respectfully disagree with you. If this group is really a family, we lift up those who are open about their grief and we leave alone those who are private about it. But, I go with what the majority decides. I, for one, am here to help anyone in anyway I can. With any medical issues I have knowledge of or just to listen to someone talk about their loved one who has passed. I know there are others who feel like I do. Who want to help others in any way they can. So to each his own. You have your own special gifts, too. I appreciate your view on this, it helps me see it from a different light. -
Would it be alright to ask that if you post a thread here in this area, can you add a picture of the person you are posting about? It just means a lot to see a picture of the person who has gone. It seems more real to me and more of a tribute. Just an idea.
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What an awesome tribute to a special lady. I really enjoyed reading your heartfelt words. God continue to keep you close to Him, Mike. Thanks so much for sharing that with us. Hugs, Sherry:)
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would it really be that much? Mercy Me.
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yes they are nice. around $23,000? More nice than I can afford to be.